Back to the future…

Roads? Where we’re going….

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We’re always told that time heals all wounds, but thing of importance that’s never mentioned is that, time also takes….time. Some wounds take more time than others to heal, and some simply may never heal, because in the pain of our hearts, we just keep aggravating it, and picking at it. Healing may mean facing the reality that that relationship you thought would never end, is truly over. It may mean that the friend you never thought you would lose, just isn’t the friend you need. It could even mean that the traumas of your childhood could go unresolved, and for some people, all they are… is their pain.

So WordPress told me that it was my blogging 1 year anniversary, and that got me to thinking about the things that have changed in that time. When I started this blog, it was purely to tell, and show, you that there was more to lyfe than what you were letting yourself believe. I wanted you to know that no matter the situation, you CAN stand tall and overcome. Why? easy, because you didn’t die. Hell, I did, TWICE, and I’m still here to tell you you’ve got this lol. You may have moments where you’re at your lowest, but that’s just setting your trajectory for your rise. Even Atlas took a knee to lyft up the world, and YOU are even stronger. It’s ok if you feel as though, you’ve been knocked down. Roll over on your back. If you can look up, you can get up, but up is the only place left to go, Right?

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Understand this, there IS greatness in you. You’ve got to act like it. So many people I speak to want change, but few of them want TO change. Is that you? Finances kicking your butt. You hate your boss. Your significant other just isn’t understanding you. You want to go back to school, but you don’t have time. Etc, etc, etc. Guess what, you don’t have time to continue with those things that are dragging you down. Your lyfe is moving past you faster than you realize, and before you know it….time’s up. Don’t be the person that says: What if it doesn’t work? Declare today that you’ll be the person that says: What if it does? If you do NOTHING, it won’t work…because YOU didn’t work. You’re got to realize that the graveyard is alive with ideas that people never took chances on *crickets* you’ll get that later lol.

Your future is up to YOU, and will be a product of your decisions. Not your momma’s decisions. Not your daddy’s decisions. Not the politician’s decisions. YOUR decisions. Decided TODAY that your tomorrow is more important than your fear of now. Decided today that you don’t want your children, and their children, to repeat the hardships of your today’s because you didn’t take care of your tomorrow…..and MOVE YOUR AZZ DAMNIT!!

You’re going to have to “Believe in something. even if it means you have to sacrifice everything”. Just do it….then you’ll look back in a few years and say: Great Scott, I can’t believe I did that!! … For those that will say: I’ve tried to chase my dream, but it didn’t work out… I’ve got one question for you….But did you die???? if at 1st you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again….

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You’ve put your lyfe on hold for everything else, AND everyone else, and now it’s time to get BACK TO YOUR FUTURE. Stop saying you don’t know where to start, and just start. Stop saying I don’t know which road I should travel. Roads? Where we’re going, we don’t need roads……. you’re tomorrow is paved by imagination, and what you do today. Write that book or blog. Start that podcast. Film those makeup tutorials. Your future is now, so make the rest of your lyfe, the best of your lyfe….. See you guys soon…

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Did you eat?

Get Your Weight Up…

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There are days when the weight of the universe takes it’s toll on every fiber of my being. Days when giving up on everything and everyone seems like the easiest, and sometimes the only answer in the moment. There are days when people who call themselves “friend”, are so much less than that. Those people who ask me consistently how my business is doing / growing, only to go seek someone else’s service without ever considering me as an option. Those days when no ear can understand the words of pain, if they escaped my lips. No heart could feel the disappointment of not being able to right the wrongs of those closest to me. No hand that could lift me when I’m forced to take a knee, because lyfe reminds me that even Atlas, a God of legend, had to kneel in order to keep from being crushed by the weight of the world.

Those days can come often, or they can come few and far between. What they bring with them determines if I’ve just been hit by Iron Mike or Glass Joe. See most days, we all believe that we live like lil Mac. We train hard for the fight of lyfe. We make plans for the future, dream of the big houses, the nice cars, to give our children the things we didn’t have, and hopefully teach them the things we didn’t learn before becoming and adult, but as Iron Mike once said: Everybody’s got a plan until they get punched in the mouth.

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It’s these days that I must remind myself that when I told everyone that I knew how I would be the “evidence”, it wasn’t just about being the evidence when things were going great, when I’m winning awards in an industry that most people call a scam because their fears won’t allow them to seek evidence, but also being the evidence when most people quit, and showing that it’s possible to have your worst days, and still be able to overcome. Sometimes you have to do it alone, and that makes quitting easier, but the joy is in doing the things they say can’t be done. When you feel silenced, reaching out to others can be hard. Letting others in can be harder, but I promise you this, doing that hard thing can make lyfe so much easier. Sometimes I have to ask myself,  Did you eat? I don’t mean food, but did you take in all that you can today? Did you adsorb ideas? Did you share a smile with someone? Are you full off of the positive atmosphere that you should create for others, because you never know who needs it, and what they may be going through. Did you check on your STRONG friends, because sometimes they need someone to help them carry the load. C’mon, ease on down, ease on down the road…..

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My point is how can I complain about what’s on my plate, when it was my goal to eat. It was my goal to show what I believe a good father can be, although I do fall short. It’s my goal to show those behind me that you can survive the inner city blues. It’s my goal to show the non-believers that the 9-5 lyfe should NEVER be the only way that you exist in this world, and that you can actually get out and live. I learned to become ok with those moments that forced me to take a knee, because just like in the gym when you’re trying to build muscle, you have to get your weight up. Even on my worse days, I smile, and I work to be stronger than I’ve ever been. For me, being a light for someone else in their darkness, brings light to mine. If you’re reading this, just know, you’ve survived 100% of the things you thought you couldn’t, and that means you’ve been given another chance to do great things. If you think today, or yesterday was bad, I’ve got the same question I ask you every time, but did you die?!? See you soon #TheJetLyfe

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Lean On Me…

I Am The Greatest…

No matter how your 1st quarter of the year ended, how did you start the 2nd quarter? Ask yourself this very simple question: If tomorrow doesn’t happen, would you still do what you’re about to do today? If that answer is NO, you’re alive but you’re not living…and you know I come here for one reason, and one reason only, to talk about living LYFE.

My last post, I told you how my 1st quarter went. Lost my girl. Lost ALL my income streams, and lost a lot of sleep. Actually, I’m not sure I mentioned that last one. My bad lol. You know what I didn’t lose? My faith, and hope. I focused on two of the most powerful words in the English language to guide me through…. I AM. You see, with those two words, everything you place behind it becomes your truth. I AM….blessed and highly favored….. I AM … going to rebuild in record time….. I AM…. 1/2 man, 1/2 amazing. My ability to seek the opportunity within the adversity has me feeling like the greatest.

 

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The game (of Lyfe) is from over though, and no matter how many times you get knocked down, all that matters is that you get back up. So let me ask you, how do you speak to yourself when times get tough? What words do you put after “I Am”? Are you taking yourself out of the game before half time? See, If you understand the power of your words when you speak to YOURSELF, then you understand that you’ve got to be your biggest cheerleader, and if you’re a believer in God, then you already know that you’re playing for the Greatest Coach of All Time, and he’s been coaching this game longer than you’ve been playing it. Understand, if you weren’t ready to play, he never would’ve put you in the game.

You’re here to win. It’s You vs. the clock. Yes, The clock, because all games come to an end, The clock on Lyfe is ticking, so you’ve got to give you best effort with every move you make. Some people get taken out of the game early, but you, you’re still here. No more telling yourself that you can’t do it, and that it won’t work. I’m imploring you to be your own “Joe Clark”. When you feel you’re closing it all in because things aren’t going the way you want to, look yourself in the eye and yell: Code 10! Code 10! This is *Insert your name* !! Get those chains off my heart / outta my head, the enemy’s here!!

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People always want to talk about Michael Jordan, Larry Bird, Tom Brady etc, etc as being the “Greatest of All Time”, but what about you? What about you being the greatest YOU of all time? There can only be one you, no matter how many may share your name. It’s time to step up, and step into your greatness. It’s time to turn up in quarter two. Your coach has given you the play, and it’s time for you to start the execution. Yea yea, this is the part where you tell me easier said then done. How about you go out and try. Really try, then come back and tell me……… Did you die?

A heart is a house for love…

Is there a heart in the house tonight…?

As a student athlete I learned many important lessons, but few as important as understanding that the game is never one in the 1st quarter. Play until that final whistle, and the outcome will speak for itself. Ask the Atlanta Falcons when the game was over in Super Bowl 51. Ask the fans that left the stadium early. Even better, ask the team holding the Lombardi trophy at the end. In case you missed it, It wasn’t Atlanta that year.

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Now you’re saying: Ok Antonio, where’s this going? You always come here to talk about living lyfe, so why are we talking sports? You would be correct, so lets talk lyfe, and why it’s important to understand that the game isn’t won in the 1st quarter. As we’re leaving March, we’re exiting the 1st quarter of the year. What was your 1st quarter like? Did you have ups? Did you have downs? Are you riding highs, or climbing up from lows? No matter the beginning, keep working til the end.

In MY 1st quarter, I lost my lady of 10 yrs, unexpected financial downturn in which my 2nd stream of income bottomed out. Hit with unexpected fines, and just recently lost my job a few weeks after my 3 yr anniversary. Someone said to me: Yikes, that’s too much for one person to bare so suddenly. We’re only 3 months into the year…. Now there are a few of you whose 1st question is going to be: Why did she leave after so long? Your concern for how I’m holding up was a 2ndary thought. That’s ok, because I know that’s how most are wired, so you’re forgiven lol. The how and whys don’t matter though. It’s the what’s next that does. What’s next?  Second star to the right, and straight on till morning of course.

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See, It’s just the 1st quarter, and although I’ve been hit, and hit hard, I know that the game (of Lyfe) isn’t over. I know that I have to keep on giving my best effort in everything that I do, because as I’ve told you before: Within all adversity lies opportunity. Far too many of you are quitting when things get tough. You’re throwing in the towel when the pain hits. You’re already cursing the year when there are still 9 months left. STOP giving up because things are tough. Stop letting doubt kill your dreams. You can do nothing, and guarantee an uncertain future, or you can take action today to help  shape a better tomorrow. Yea, yea, it hurts. There’s pain, but just like I asked you when I started this blog: Did you die? No? Then lets work, because your dreams don’t work unless you do. Live Lyfe.

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Lights, Camera, Action…

6 mins Mr. Holloman, you’re on..

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Well look who it is!! Did you miss me? After my last post about Vegas, I needed to take a minute to kind of deal with myself., my emotions. I still hadn’t completely come to grips with the loss of my friend Glenn (The Most Electrifying man post), and I really needed time to allow myself to grieve.

During that period though, I traveled to the beautiful Caribbean. The Bahama islands to be exact. You guys know I like to travel right? It’s what I do. I am a travel agent after all lol. We went to celebrate my girlfriend’s mother’s 50th birthday. I’m not sure that’s grammatically correct, but I’m sure one of the grammar police will pull up any minute if it isn’t lol.

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The trip was amazing. We traveled aboard the Enchantment of the Seas, a Royal Caribbean Oasis Class Ship, and as always, RC delivered on the promise that this isn’t a cruise, it’s an adventure. For me though, in the midst all of the joy of celebration, the beauty of the islands, and the peace of the ocean itself, I just wasn’t at peace. There were many things in my lyfe, personal and professional that were starting to unravel, or simply just fall apart. I was being forced to face some things that I was in denial about. Trying to hold on to somethings that was being forced to let go. Lyfe was not enjoyable.

See, the toughest thing about being the strongest person that all of your friends know, is that they rarely believe that someone of such strength ever needs someone to be strong for them. It’s almost taken for granted that you will always be ok. Now I know I’ve proven to be almost bullet proof…maybe a little bullet resistant is a better term lol, but there are moments where I’m just HUMAN, and this was one of those, but they say that when you’re down to nothing, just know that God is up to something.

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A local magazine named “Vital Magazine” reached out to me and let me know that they wanted to have me in the magazine as a honoree for Entrepreneur of the Month for their October issue. Someone, unbeknownst to me, nominated me for my hard work, dedication, and my desire to use my travel business to help empower people to change their lives, AND their finances. This was a reminder to me that you must keep pushing. Even when you feel things are not going the way you want them, when you feel that no one is believing in or supporting your dreams. You have to keep pushing, because someone you may not even know is pulling for your success. Lyfe will be tough at times, but you MUST be tougher. You must endure. You simply being YOU, is giving someone else who’s struggling with lyfe’s difficulties, HOPE. It’s a reminder that although lyfe, in the moment, is not, and has not been the greatest as of late, I’m still going to live my greatest lyfe. You should too. It’s not to late. Tough times don’t last. Tough people do.

What Happens In Vegas

This Is Sin City

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They say: What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas…but with the advent of smartphones & social media, I challenge you to make that statement true again lol. In an age where it is commonplace for people to share everything, it seems that the one thing that we we lack the ability to truly share is….true, unconditional love. In fact, most people’s unconditional love have too many conditions to receive it. Think about that for a second. What are YOUR requirements for loving someone without conditions? Do you need to know that they love you back? Does your relationship need to be a t a certain level before you can truly open up? What things have you stated are requirements for you to love unconditionally? Did you ever realize that you did that?

So now that I’ve got you thinking for a second, let’s get back to why I’ve been away, and why this entry is a week late lol. I was in Las Vegas for the 2nd time in as little as 3 months. I was taking a moment to enjoy lyfe. When we 1st met, I told you that I would always stress upon you the importance of getting off of the hamster wheel, and to go out and explore what lyfe has to offer, beyond clocking in and clocking out. I try to lead by example, and I’ll be sharing more of my travel adventures with you soon, but MAN!!! Vegas is so much fun.

I stayed at the beautiful Red Rock Casino & Spa. This place is huge. It had its own movie theater, AND a full bowling alley right on premises. The pool area was unreal. There were so many pools to choose from lol. Wait til you see this…

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That is the view of the pool area from my suite, and even this does not truly do the area justice. Now why am I sharing this? Is it because I want to brag to you that I went to Vegas, while you went to work? Not at all. It’s to remind you that we’re all due to that slice of lyfe that we keep denying ourselves. STOP saying as soon as situation A & situation B falls into place, I’ll take that vacation that I need. I’ll go after that dream that I really want to build. I’ll start that business that I really want to launch. The BEST time to do all of that was Yesterday, the next best time is NOW!! Lyfe will continue to happen without you. Do you want to live it or do you want to continue to spectate in it? I will continue to LIVE lyfe. You’ve spectated long enough. Say it with me: I’VE SPECTATED LONG ENOUGH!!!

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The day that I returned from Vegas, there was horrific incident that lead to many phone calls, text messages, inboxes, etc of people desperately seeking confirmation that I was not involved. I’m thankful for everyone that reached out, but more importantly it serves as a reason for why we MUST live lyfe to its fullest capacity. It’s been reported that at least 60 people lost their lives on that night. Hundreds of others wounded. My thoughts and prayers are with all of the families, and it’s why I say to you, my family, to live lyfe. take that chance you’ve been thinking about, because the rest of today is not promised to us, let alone tomorrow. The graveyard is alive with the hopes, dreams, and promises of I’ll do it tomorrow, from people who never got the chance too. No more putting lyfe on hold. YOU’VE SPECTATED LONG ENOUGH!!!!

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The Most Electrifying Man..

Mr. Glenn Hughes

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When I began this journey into blogging, one of the 1st things that I said was: “I wanted to encourage people to live Lyfe to its fullest…” I wanted people to take from one of my personal lyfe experiences to appreciate lyfe itself, the people in their lives, and to recognize even through the turmoil of the moment, you can make it through.

One of the other things I was aiming for by telling you my story, was to paint a very real picture for you… that continued lyfe is not promised to any of us, and I was one of the blessed ones. Now on this journey of lyfe, you will encounter many people. Some will become friends or associates, some will even become enemies, and every now and again, you will meet a person that you can only classify as special. Mr. Glenn Hughes, was special. It saddens me to use the term “was”, but today my co-workers and I were informed that Mr. Hughes passed  away. A man, that from the 1st hello, you could tell that he was so full of lyfe, and was going to instantly be an upgrade to yours.

The impact of this news (of his passing) hit as deeply as your 1st conversation with Glenn. This guy, man listen lol. Glenn and I discussed politics, wrestling, news, sports, our customers, lyfe in general lol, you name it, we discussed it. I was ready for him today too. I had just said to a co-worker that I hope he came to work today, because Wed was our day to get at it. I looked forward to every Wed (every day really) because when “The most electrifying man in cable, internet, and home phone services” walked in the door, you knew it was going to be a show.

Today, there’s no show. No sports talk. No politics. No news, and today, my guy traded in his cool sunglasses for even cooler angelic wings. A lot of people believe that greatness /success is achieved and represented by “stuff”. The nice car, the big house, how much money you have. “Stuff”. To me, greatness is achieved by the impact you have on people, and that impact determines your legacy. How will people be impacted long after you’ve left this lyfe. As my co-workers, and even myself, fought with our emotions today at the news of the loss. The frustration, the tears, the conversations taking place, there was one thing truly clear. Nobody had a bad word to say about Glenn Hughes, and that his touch on the people that he met was so impactful, that God himself decided that it was time to go “One On One…. With The Great One”…

R.I.P my friend. I appreciate our time together #TheJetLyfe